Not Your Typical EmptyNester

 Happy New Year! I know it has been a long while. Life has been such a whirlwind and it took me for a wild, yet wonderful ride.  There have been ups and downs that enabled me to grow as a woman.           My thoughts are forever flowing with vivid memories but this particular post is not really about parenting. This one is more so for those who may have been seen as the underdog due the decisions that they made early on in life. I was an underdog, a statistic. When I became pregnant it was a shock to everyone, even me. Some people were loving and supportive, while others were judgemental and down right mean, not only to me, but my parents. I developed this complex, that I never realized I had. I thought that I had to prove myself successful to those who looked down on me.   I needed them to see  they were wrong.  I was determined to show them that my life was not over.  In order for me to do this, I knew I needed a plan. S...

  Hello! It’s been a long while since I’ve written but lots have happened. There are so many lessons that life teachers us. We often do not know that they are lessons until we are licking our wounds caused by this lesson.  I’m a strong believer in God and spirituality. There are battles being fought in the spaces beyond what  we can not physically see. However, as these battles are being fought we are advised to use intuition or discernment to identify what’s not a positive part of our life’s journey. It is in the middle of those spaces that we learn our lessons. It is in those spaces we have encounters with others. It is in those spaces that we begin to walk another course that being a lesson in which we will pass or have to repeat the test at the culmination of that path. With that being said I’ve learned that it’s ok to let people go. I have always struggled with letting go or leaving people where they are after they’ve mistreated me or we’ve grown apart. I guess that’...

 Dear Racquel I want to tell you, I love you! you are beautiful, intelligent, kind, loving and strong. The level of intelligence you possess will be your foundation as you grow into a young woman. I need you to take your health seriously, you only have one body, take care of it. Eat better, exercise more and take time to let go of the hurt. BE KIND TO YOURSELF!  This is a very difficult time in your life.  Gabriel is 6 months old, your world is different and you have no clue what to do. You are only 15 years old, most adults couldn't have handled such stress. You felt lonely and abandoned by so many but you must remain strong. Do not take it personal. They are growing too. All the trauma you have endured scarred you and you developed an angry demeanor.  It is ok to be angry and you will realize that it will not benefit you to stay angry.   There are rivers of emotions that you will have to sojourn tirelessly through, alone and you will make it. Yes, your pa...

photo credit:  https://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/better-life/i-need-a-hug It took me awhile to write this post. I knew it had to be done but I was honestly in fear of the  judgement that can be accompanied by such truths as I will lay before you today. People tend to judge before they actually take the time to truly understand a situation.  The idea that I had a child young outsiders think I was fast and loose, although I was experiencing adult activities, in no way did I go looking for what eventually happened to me. Most of what I am writing here are things I've only uttered to my best friend and have kept to myself for many years. As I’ve grown into an adult, I’ve learned that transparency is key. I make all attempts to be as transparent as possible. My friends know me as being transparent and that's one thing that they love about me. Even as a teen mom I realized it was best for me to be honest with my son about life matters. I try my best to be transparent wit...