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Pat Yourself on the back!!

Parent, Parents!


        Pat yourself on the back!
       You raised a human being.
       That is not an easy task.

         If your child or children are making decisions that are best for them and leading them down the right path, be proud of them and yourself. There is not one guide or reference book that will help you to truly raise a human being. It is especially difficult, in my opinion for mothers whom are raising sons or fathers that are raising daughters. We are of the opposite sex. I have no idea what it means to be a man or a male at all, and I’m sure I can empathize with some of the situations that my son may encounter; but I will never truly understand his life.

          However,  I can offer advise, provide guidance and love to help along the journey of adulthood. I by no means have all the answers. I am trying to figure out  this thing  called "life" myself. Being in my early 30's and not having lived a full life just yet,  I am still learning and growing myself. Although, our battles are slightly different we are both growing and that all that matters.  When I looked at him this day and thought about all we have been through, it was a proud mom moment. This young man is building the life I never got a chance to.  

         Don't get me wrong, I love the life that God has granted me the time and ability to create. For this reason, I believe that my son's journey is different because he will face different obstacles. He will have time for self discovery and self realization. I did not have that, we had to discover who I was or who I wanted to be as a mom, woman and otherwise when I became a parent at the age of 15. It takes years and years for us to figure out who we are.  So, I am glad he will have the time to thoroughly figure out who he is before bringing another human being into the world.  

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